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    Winter-2016  


Channel, Contain Negative Emotions And Make Clearer, Better Decisions

It is commonly accepted: “When people are stressed-out, they make their absolute worst choices!”

Ken Lauder helps build careers for successful people and has developed some suggestions for reducing the chances of making poor decisions based on emotions rather than clear thinking.

Toxic Emotions (e.g. feelings of sadness, hopelessness, alienation, hurt, rejection, and the like) and stress can block or dismantle your reasoning processes and the use of your best judgment. It can also amp up the voltage of the energy charges generated by your potentially toxic emotions. Therefore, it is essential for you to do your very best not to make important life choices when you are under an emotional barrage or high stress.

Here are some suggestions Lauder makes to keep managers and employees under “wraps” during the holiday season and beyond.

  • Do not make an important decision or choice when overcome by emotions or stress!  Always, stop, cool down, and, as they say, “take the pause that refreshes.” 
  • Do not opt  for an immediate, emotional quick fix, response, or retaliation. Oftentimes, we opt for these short-term satisfactions, but in the big picture of our lives, these unthinking, emotion- generated reactions are counter and highly detrimental to accomplishing what we truly want for ourselves in the long term (our Gold Ring Dreams).
  • Be “Consequence Cognizant” which requires an individual to carefully think about and vividly visualize: The most severe and heinous consequences that a poor/destructive emotionally-charged choice on your part can have on your life, your career and/or those you love; and t he most positive, beneficial outcome(s) that you will secure because you took the requisite time to strategically choose the most constructive course of action.
  • Try to truly understand where the other individual who is pushing an individual’s emotional buttons or evoking a potential toxic emotion-generated response is coming from. Strive to see things from their point of view. Chat with the person in issue, in an open and non-defensive manner. Oftentimes, learning where others are coming from brings understanding, as well as sympathy/empathy, which can diffuse and thereby lessen the strong energy charges generated within you by potentially toxic emotions.
  • To diffuse emotion-generated energy charges, take a moment to think about all of the blessings and positives in your life. This can help you to cool down from the angst of the moment, so that you are then better able to think clearly and strategically.
  • Do not make important holiday choices when tired, experiencing high levels of stress, or have had too much caffeine. Additionally, never make important choices when under the influence of alcohol or clarity-impairing medicinal or recreational drugs. The goal is to be cognitively clear and precise when making holiday or everyday choices. Therefore stay away from anything that can impair cognitive processes.

The takeaway here, is that we all experience high levels of stress and  potentially toxic emotions during the holidays.

Lauder uses the word “potentially,” because these emotions are toxic to the individual and his or her well-being, if they trigger destructive and/or self-sabotaging acts. 

What to do in these instances, is to not emotionally react in these situations, but to instead, strategically and constructively choose actions.

Channel the potential negative energies that you experience into positive, life-enhancing endeavors—thereby using emotions and their energy charges as valuable allies.

The sweet result may well be that a manager will make positive, life-enhancing holiday and everyday choices, as well as gain (increased) feelings of high self-esteem, self-worth, and the core-confidence to achieve his or her most cherished goals.

Lauder’s new book is Your Killer Emotions: The 7 Steps to Mastering the Toxic Emotions, Urges, and Impulses That Sabotage You!

 


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